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Keeping Miss Daisy

Saturday morning after carefully examining Daisy, the vet agreed I should probably let her go.

I cried.

He hugged me.

It was awkward.

He sensed my hesitation and gave me a second option: pain and anti-inflammatory medication. I asked for a few minutes to think about it and immediately called my brother. Putting my dog down was not something I wanted to do alone. Ben didn’t pick up, so I selfishly put off the inevitable and asked the vet to medicate her for pain.

I took Daisy home and within a few hours she was wagging her tail–something she hasn’t done in quite some time. My wise friend Susan said if I’m not ready, Daisy isn’t ready. I think she might be right.

I know I’ve got to let her go sooner or later, but it’s going to have to be later. I need more time with her, and my brother needs time to hold this over my head. I can hear him now, “No, Sarah I won’t fix your garbage disposal. I already saved your dog’s life this month. Isn’t that enough?”


  • Thank god for brothers, right?!

  • Two pieces of advice:

    1. Let her go on her own terms. She’ll let you know when she’s ready.

    2. Be there with her when it’s time. Don’t let her last vision be of a cold, unfamiliar doctor’s room. Her last vision should be of you, the one who loved her the most.

    ….and I totally feel for you. I’ve had to do it before and cried my eyes out.

    It’s not easy, as you’ve already found out. But you’ll regret not being with her when the time comes.

  • For some reason, I thought the vet appointment was today–and I’ve been thinking about you all morning.

    I’m glad the pain medicine is helping, and that you’ll have some time yet with Daisy–especially considering Rosie Finlinson’s adventure over the weekend.

    Give both of your girls a big hug and a kiss for me. Believe me, I know how important those dogs are to you.

  • Thanks for the update and I’m glad the medicine is helping. I thought of you and Daisy all weekend. I’ve only had my little pug for less than a year and I am already so attached. I am continuing to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Sarah — I’m with Sean on this one. Daisy will let you know when she’s ready to say good-bye, and definitely be there with her.

    If possible, get the vet to come to the house, so that she is surrounded by everything that is familiar, and comfortable, and home.

    I’ve been where you are now, several times in fact, and I know how difficult it can be … and in the meantime, love her and try to spend as much quality time as you can with her.

    And if your brother won’t fix your garbage disposal, I will.

  • awe. My heart breaks for you, Sarah. Hang in there, friend. :(

  • Sarah…I’m a long time reader/lover of your writing, but I’ve never commented. I too have a one eyed pug and can’t imagine life without him. However, I’ve had to send other animals “home” and it’s worse than losing most family members. Let’s face it, we love our fur babies more than most people! I promise you that you will know when it’s time. Nobody knows Daisy like you. She will one day look at you and you will know. Trust yourself and enjoy all the time you have left.

  • Rebecca, I’d be lost without those jerks.

    Sean, I plan to be with her. I love her too much to do anything but that. Thanks for the advice. It helps cement what I need to do.

    Cori, thanks honey. So glad someone else in our family has fur babies and can understand.

    Lobela, thanks for your thoughts. Pug love is the best love, right?

    Flahute, you’re a good man Charlie Brown. I had no idea having the vet come to me was an option. I’m going to ask about that.

    Ryan, thanks pal. I’ll be OK. I always am.

    Laurie, it means the world to me that you commented, after all this time, on this particular post. I have to know more about your little one-eyed guy! Email me? I want to see pics.

    Also, thanks to everyone that sent encouraging emails. You have no idea how much that means to me.

  • Is the pain medication for arthritis? Many dogs can live a long, satisfying life with arthritis and just constantly be on pain medication. My mom’s dog takes Metacam for arthritis pain, and it is just accepted that he will likely have to take it for the rest of his life. But if that was my choice versus having to put him down, I would gladly take the option of pain meds! Not sure if this is at all what Daisy is going through, but if it is I just wanted to say that it is not unheard of for dogs to go long term on pain meds and live a happy life…I’m surprised that wasn’t offered as an option sooner!

  • Michelle, she’s been on mild pain and anti-inflammatory meds for a few years for joint pain. The new (and much stronger) pain medicine has been helping a bit, but she is still in rough shape. My sweet girl has had a good life. She’s lived longer than anyone ever expected. I think being half-pirate has something to do with it!

  • Sarah,
    So sorry to hear that Daisy’s not doing well. I lost my own sweet Daisy, my beautiful blonde cocker spaniel, after almost 14 years. I didn’t want to let go, but she finally did by herself. She died a happy pup and knew how much she was loved. I miss her still, though Charlie, my rescue dog, keeps me on my toes!

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